I don’t know about you, but I am not happy
every single second of every day. I experience roller coasters
of emotion like everybody else, but I have discovered something
that makes the job of staying happy a little easier. It revolves
around the concept of wholeness.
Wholeness is a feeling of completeness, a
feeling that everything is right. Unfortunately, our belief
systems and our philosophies support fragmentation, and a
feeling of separateness from life. Fragmentation leads to a
feeling of incompleteness, and then you find yourself on a
descent into negative emotion.
We are told that it is not possible to feel
happy all the time, because the universe itself is polarized.
This is an absolute fact. Hot–cold, weak–strong, light– dark,
positive–negative, etc. However, these are qualities that
describe matter and energy! Of course, it appears to us in our
physical incarnations that we ARE matter and energy, does it
not? Even for those who understand our spiritual heritage, the
physical experience has led us to formulate and buy into core
beliefs like these:
· Souls are born with original sin (or karma). [tainted before
you ever begin]
· You have to struggle and work hard for everything you get.
[the universe is lined up against you]
· Challenge builds character. [only by overcoming the negative
can you reach the positive]
· You’ll get your reward in heaven. [you can’t really find joy
while on earth, so shut up and get to work]
· Human nature is animalistic and primitive; therefore, human
beings need to be controlled and disciplined. [you can’t know
what’s best for you, because your instincts are inherently
· If you don’t behave you should be punished. [thus reinforcing
· Things never go as smoothly as you plan them [obstacles are
· And finally, the formula that succinctly expresses mankind’s
worldview: All good things must come to an end. [But the bad
stuff, that can last forever].
All of these beliefs lead to a feeling of
separation, and fragment our consciousness. Is it any wonder
that this sort of thinking extends even into how we define
We divide the psyche –– something that no one has ever been able
to define, precisely because it is non–physical –– into
artificial compartments, such as the ego, the id, the
subconscious, the conscious, the super–conscious, the “inner
child,” and many more. We subdivide our psyche into separate
boxes like we were cutting up a pie. We then assign these parts
magical powers to influence our behavior in undesirable ways.
For example, we are taught that the ego is bad, and that we
should strive to overcome and transcend it. We are taught that
the inner child is wounded and needs healing, that the id
contains harmful negative emotions, and that the subconscious is
a vast, murky repository of neurotic and unhealthy impulses that
can affect our behavior without our conscious consent. If these
aspects of our consciousness are part of our very nature, then
how can we possible achieve wholeness? Well, we cannot!
sort of fragmentary thinking regards our own psyche as a
battleground of competing factions, and leads inevitably to a
feeling of tension and frustration. We must then invent
complicated processes and 12–step programs to try to overcome
this self–created conflict. No wonder there are so many
self–help books, seminars, and courses out there!
If you understand your spiritual nature, you understand that
these artificial designations of the psyche don’t exist, and
that you aren’t any of them. These psychic constructs have been
invented by well intentioned people in an attempt to explain the
complex gamut of human behavior; but they have somehow taken on
a life of their own, just like the “monsters of the id” in the
famous science fiction movie, “Forbidden Planet.”
What I have discovered is that a feeling of
wholeness can result from openness, honesty, and transparency. A
person can begin to regain wholeness by simply accepting
themselves, and being honest and open with themselves.
Wholeness does not mean that you have to be perfect in every
moment. The road to wholeness begins by understanding that it is
perfectly OK to feel what you are feeling, even if you feel
I have discovered the value of simply being myself in every
situation. At work, at home, with friends, in public, at family
gatherings, during my radio shows. For me, it is a great
temptation to alter my behavior to suit the crowd I am currently
interacting with. My main motivation is to help and support
others, and that often leads me to want to keep things going
smoothly. What I’ve found, however, is that although it’s easy
to “go along to get along,” I find myself wearing different
masks depending upon which social situation I’m in. And that is
So I finally just gave it up. I decided to be me, even if I’m
feeling grumpy, and no matter who I’m with. I’ll tell people,
“you know, I’m feeling irritable right now, so just bear with
me.” I’ve discovered that people appreciate that sort of
honesty, and a funny thing happens. When I’m open to people,
even when I’m not feeling so great, I get out of my funk a lot
faster. There’s something about an open and transparent person
that other people can really relate to. And you know why?
Because we’ve all been there! I’ve discovered that when I’m
openly and honestly angry, it takes the edge off my negative
emotion, people can understand me in the moment, and I begin to
feel better a lot quicker.
What I’m trying to say is that openness, transparency, and
honesty is the road to wholeness. It is the road to personal
integrity, for that’s what wholeness is. And you can begin to
practice this right now.
To act in this way is bringing out an inner strength I didn’t
know I had.
I’ve also discovered that baring your soul to people takes a lot
of courage. I’ve discovered that being open to people can only
come from a position of inner strength. It’s only when I am
frustrated inside that I am truly angry, and that frustration
almost always comes from not being honest and open with myself,
or being afraid that others will not perceive me the way I would
like. But of course, being dishonest puts a mask between me and
the world, and that naturally turns people off!
I’ve found that I can be polite and social, and still express
who I am in the moment. Openness doesn’t mean obtuseness if you
are genuine, authentic, and are willing to open yourself up.
Every one of us is a perfected spiritual
being. That is the quality of the creative principle, which is
non–physical, non–polarized, and exists in a state of bliss. But
we are also human, and even though it is easy to slide along by
conforming to society’s version of “normal,” “normal” doesn’t
really feel that great a lot of the time. Successful and happy
people go their own way, not in a resistive and “f – you”
fashion, but in a way that open them up to themselves, and to
the world at large.
My spiritual guides tell me that when you
fully accept yourself, you will feel bliss.
They say that polarity dissolves when there is a feeling of
wholeness, and that wholeness is just the acceptance of who you
are. They are always telling me how important feelings are, and
that everything worthwhile in life boils down to a feeling.
Love is a feeling, happiness is a feeling. Success is the
feeling of having accomplished something worthwhile. Integrity
is a feeling of wholeness and internal strength. You feel good
when you help another because giving touches the soul.
Everything we strive for in life is motivated by the desire to
feel love and happiness, and that begins with openness and
The question is, how is it possible to maintain a sense of
wholeness while still living a crazy life on earth that exposes
us to such great polarity?
By recognizing that you do not have to think a certain way, or
to be a certain way. It is sufficient, in other words, to be
yourself. What I mean by “being yourself” is simply the
acceptance of who you are, right now. All of you! This will
generate the feeling of wholeness.
I am talking about a feeling of wholeness, not a
Wholeness doesn’t mean that your life has to be
perfect! Your life might be a disaster, but you must begin by
being honest with yourself emotionally. If you feel rotten in
this moment, that is perfectly fine. That feeling occurs because
you do not fully accept yourself. The solution is not to beat
yourself up or take another seminar or search for the "secret"
The way to get out of that trap is to be open and transparent.
Pull back those psychic curtains, unlock those emotional doors,
throw away those masks, and open up those windows of feeling!
Air out your psyche. Throw away all of those psychic boxes
marked “ego” “subconscious” “inner child,” etc., and feel the
fresh air of life force flowing through you.
Begin by deciding to just be who you are, no matter how that is,
or how it might affect others. I think you’ll find that being
yourself is the greatest gift you can give to yourself, and
everyone you interact with.
Sit or lie anywhere you like, as long as it is
Imagine that you are surrounded by a sphere of soft, golden
light, and that you are inside this sphere. Why a sphere?
Because the Sphere is the geometric equivalent of wholeness. It
is smooth, unbroken and has no beginning and ending. The golden
energy within this sphere penetrates and warms every cell in
your body. Feel yourself as whole and complete. Fragmentary
thoughts and emotions simply dissolve, and you feel a delicious
warmth and a feeling that all is right within you. You may, if
you are a sensitive, see or feel color.
Once you feel this energy, you can get up and go about your
business. This feeling should stay with you for a while, because
the color gold has the peculiar property of warmth and
wholeness. It is a very fundamental energy that lasts a long
time, like a warm breakfast on a cold day.
You can do this exercise at any time. You do not have to close
your eyes. Just imagine being surrounded by golden light and
feel the sense of completeness that accompanies it.
I always declaim against the government and
its energy policies of almost exclusive support of fossil fuels.
In large part this situation is due to the control that has been
gained over these resources by groups of people who support each
other and funnel business to each other; a sort of planetary
cartel, if you will, that has evolved over the centuries. My
reading of the present situation on planet earth is that this
control is becoming more and more noticed and remarked upon. The
present state of consciousness of humanity is evolving, and one
of the most important factors pushing us toward this evolution
Pollution results from the residual effects of
burning, smashing, and pulverizing of the fossil fuels from
which we extract energy.
It is inevitable that when we approach energy
extraction –– or anything, for that matter –– from an
orientation of resistance, or an “us against them” mentality,
unwanted by–products will arise. Cooperation and harmony, on the
other hand, generate efficiencies in which all resources are
used (somewhat like an organic farm in which wastes are
Pollution creates life-threatening situations
that require us to look outside the box for solutions. In a
world that is coming together using new and instantaneous
messaging and information technology, monopolistic control is
becoming harder and harder to maintain. In the past, monopolies
have used governments to impose standards and drive business and
money to favored elements. However, as openness and transparency
become more evident, monopolistic control will become more and
Greater openness and transparency in society
is a good thing, for it will bring about an improvement in the
integrity and wholeness of our institutions, both governmental
Only when there is great enough demand can
there be a change in a traditional and institutionalized
This has far more to do with vibrational
resonance than it does to “facts on the ground.” In other words,
the agreement of almost all of humanity is that fossil fuels are
well established and will probably remain so for a long while.
If there was a paradigm shift of even a significant minority of
humanity for alternative energy, however, this would be enough
to provide a much greater economic incentive for their
development. This has not occurred on any major scale, not
because oil companies are evil, but because the vibrational
resonance of humanity is compatible with “control from above.”
Victimization and hierarchical control has been a theme of our
civilization for the past 5,000 years.
Everything in existence is a reflection of
consciousness. It is often convenient to rail against that which
is firmly established but undesirable, is it not? That
resistance, however, perpetuates the unwanted thing. Resistance
evolves concomitant with hierarchical control from above, and
I believe that humanity on planet earth is in
the pre-civilization stage. We are learning, as a species, to
stand on our own two feet, and to gain confidence in ourselves.
Numerologically speaking, humanity at this time is working
through the 1 energy, the most basic and essential vibration for
the formation of a rational, cooperative, and successful
To use a baseball analogy, humanity has been
sitting in the dugout, bickering, and has not yet taken the
field. We have not yet been able to even play the game, for that
requires a team on the field. It is not possible to have a team,
of course, without the fundamental elements of trust and
cooperation. Until we learn this, we will continue to struggle.
It seems, then, that openness is vital not only in our
personal lives, but for the survival of our species and our
planet as well.
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